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Please join Tom’s Trips is supporting Hedonism II’s Night Manager Michael Asemota

Last week we reported that our dear friend and the much addored night manager at Hedonism II Michael Asemota suffered a brain aneurism.  He has underwent several treatments at the best Hospital in Jamaica and was then transfered to the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville, Florida.

Michael had a very complicated surgery that was successful last week.  He is being monitored in Jacksonville and has a follow up visit later this week.  He is expected to make a complete recovery soon.

Unfortunately Michael’s Health Insurance does not cover the amount of approximately $100,000 needed for the surgery and other related costs.  In an effort to raise money for Michael the owners of Hedonism II have donated ten five night stays for us to use in a raffle to raise the funds needed for Michael’s treatment.

For complete details on how to purchase a ticket or make a donation please click on the link below.

HELP MICHAEL AND WIN A 5 NIGHT STAY AT HEDO II

 Tom’s Trips would like to thank Dr. L who travels with us 4-5 times a year including January and the Zoo Krew.  Dr. L was instrumental in recruiting one of the top doctors in the world to complete a very complicated and dangerous procedure.  His efforts saved Michael’s life.

Tom’s Trips has been able to confirm donations in excess of $6,000 from our guests.  Thank you for helping Michael.

Making ‘friends’ at swing resorts and conventions?

By Larry and Mia Fine, the authors of ‘Swinging from A to Z’

The technique of approaching others while you are at a resort or convention is different from the one at any other Lifestyle events. You come to the club or party just for a few hours, while at a convention or resort you intend to stay several days. The relaxing atmosphere of this unique vanilla-free environment truly makes a difference in everyone’s mindset.

Yes, real swingers are still determined to engage in sexual encounters. This is the main reason for their travel. Yet, they have to spread their time between different activities for them to taste at least a little of everything. There are too many actions going on at the same time, making deciding what to do at each moment more difficult.

Hence, pre-scheduled dates do not necessarily work here because either you or your partners-to-be could be on the fly involved in some unanticipated action. Thus, you could easily miss the appointment.

The key word for appropriate understanding the situation is spontaneous. Yes, you behave more impulsively and unprompted while you are at a resort or convention. Spur of the moment often decides for you.

The following excerpt from a discussion on Web group we manage for our friends illustrates the above statement:

KARI AND PETE [our friends from Canada]:

Kari and I are going to Niagara Falls, Canada, for a Valentine’s Day swing convention in February. We don’t know anyone there, but we have learned how not to waste time on people with hang-ups. Mia and Larry have been our inspiration. We ask couples about their Lifestyle choices right after meeting them.

“Do you want?” If the answer is “No,” then we move on! My friends, time is running out, and we want to have lots of sex. Therefore, we have found no matter where we are playing, being completely open and honest is the best policy.

ADMINISTRATORS [Larry and Mia]:

This might be not easy to do for the first time, but once you do it, it goes smoothly enough.

When you are at a convention or other similar setting (Hedo, Desire etc.) the steps leading to total exclusion of time waste are:

1. Spot the couple you like.

2. Approach them immediately and ask if they want to play with you.

3. If their answer is “Yes,” grab them instantly (scheduled for later dates often will not work) and take them to your room. If the answer is “No,” or any other variation of “No” (like “We’ll tell you later,” “We need to get to know you better,” etc.), go to step one above.

Never wait in line and never hesitate. Be active. This way we always get what we want in desired quality and quantities.

Kisses to all, Larry & Mia

Another major difference is that at conventions and resorts people you would like to play with are often part of some group. Maybe three or four (or more) couples of their friends are always with them, making them seem unapproachable. Such a group looks self-sufficient and ready to reject anyone trying to break in. Sometimes, this is true and we swingers have our own term for such a group – clique. Unfortunately, those cliques are common issue in swinging and not rare to find. We say ‘unfortunately’ because cliques, in our opinion, are against everything the Lifestyle is all about.     

More often though, the group you might spot represents just a circle of real swingers who are ready for new contacts and always desire them. The more the merrier! Our advice is to approach the couple you like in any case. You never know unless you try, don’t you?

The following story is from our own past.

During a Hedo vacation while the lunchtime games took place in the main dining area, we picked up some food and took seats at a large table next to an attractive couple in their late 30s. (We always try to make new contacts during mealtime. Don’t ever try to find a secluded spot just for you two. Always sit next to new people. They might be fun and, who knows, may be more than just fun!)

Our tablemates were sad because they were leaving in an hour and waiting for their airport shuttle. We started a conversation. You know, the usual—where are you from, what are your names, how did you like it here, how many times were you here before, etc. The Canadians (they were from Vancouver) visited Hedo for the first time, liked the resort, but told us they expected more from the sexual part of their getaway.

They said, “We might be too selective, but we’ve only spotted three couples here whom we would like to play with, and you were one of them.” We were pleased and asked why they did not invite us over because we would gladly do so! Their reaction was, “Really? But you were always in the middle of the group of friends. We did not expect you to have fun with someone outside of your group. You looked like you were extremely busy, and it just did not make sense to even try to approach you!”

We immediately invited the Canadians to our room (another our Hedo rule: book a room as close to the main dining area as possible) and had an amazing quickie. How much more fun all of us could have had if they approached us the minute they decided they liked us?

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What to expect from your first vacation at the Lifestyle resort?

By Larry and Mia Fine, the authors of ‘Swinging from A to Z’

Long ago, when we were first researching Hedo (a nickname of the SuperClubs’ Hedonism II), we noticed all the reviews coming from resort visitors were just of two types. One group of people was shocked and embarrassed by their Hedo vacationing experience while the other was fully overwhelmed with excitement and enthusiastic about their next visit there. There were no reviews in the middle. Nobody demonstrated indifference. There were virtually no reactions being just okay or so-so type, they all evaluated Hedo as either terrible or excellent. This situation made us somewhat frightened and, at the same time, intrigued. Our curiosity won and we decided to go there and see for ourselves.…

Now, after visiting Hedo 10 times as well as having traveled to other Lifestyle-friendly resorts (Desire and Caliente), we understand the diametrically irreconcilable reviews. It’s simple: a given person’s response depends on his or her state of mind and personal expectations.

So, what should you expect?

First, be aware: none of Lifestyle-friendly resorts caters exclusively for swingers. Moreover, even on designated swingers’ take-over weeks (consult your travel agency for exact dates), far from every visitor is a swinger. Depending on your priorities, you should either avoid these weeks (that is if recreational sex activities you might witness could offend you), or book exclusively on them (if you ready to explore your sexuality while being open-minded and non-judgmental). Avoid swingers’ weeks if your primary purpose is a pure naked fun-in-the-sun. Keep within them if you are not opposed upfront to some action you might be willing to participate in.

No matter if you’re curios about swinging or not, free your mind and better be ready to get naked from the first minute you are there. Yes, nudity is not necessary and no one will force you to lose your basing suites (as well as to anything you would not like to do!), but what is the point to visit such a place while not being an equal part of the crowd?

The major (and what a huge!) difference from other places is the people Lifestyle resorts attract. However, this factor reveals itself mostly on swingers’ weeks. We fondly look back on our first time at Hedo. We were surprised with the atmosphere we had never experienced before. We found no separate groups of people on the beach: groups playing cards, groups reading books, etc. Instead, people shaped one large crowd where everyone was smiling at one another. Nobody cared who we were and how much money we made, how big our house was, and how expensive our car was. People were naked and equal, therefore, completely open, laid-back, and friendly. They accepted us right away.

Being able to compare ‘normal’ (or ‘vanilla’ in swingers’ parlance) and Lifestyle people for years, we have concluded the average swinging person is happier and friendlier than the average vanilla one. Sexual fulfillment leads to a different state of both mind and body by enhancing several vital processes. It also improves the mood. We swingers are often happy without any reason. Even our real problems seem to be not that significant.

Many Lifestylers from all over the world visit their favorite resorts on the same week(s) every year, making them an international Lifestyle reunion scene and adding one more reason to travel there. Entertainment and theme parties are something you will talk about for months after. All those shockingly revealing and shameless outfits challenging each other are also witty and up to the theme. In some cases, the Lifestylers bring these costumes while intending them just for one-time use, for that particular resort visit only. People feel comfortable wearing them here but probably would not do so at any other place in the world.

It would take long to describe every activity associated with such a vacation. We do not see our goal in filling the blanks here. We would rather like to stress the uniqueness of emotional climate and familiarize you, at least briefly, with the spirit of such getaways.

The following is an excerpt from our Hedo friends’ e-mail that gets the job done despite its grammar.

 Things we hope/expect to see/hear/do/ experience on the second week of January at Hedo:

Resort at full capacity, staff at full intensity, and lots of stories about how someone’s reservations were screwed up and how they were bounced to another resort.

Hearing about the repeaters party and knowing that in 2037 we will have a chance to win a free trip.

Standard question number one, “How late did you stay up last night?”

Hearing someone say the food is good and wondering what they eat the rest of the year.

The Sandals tour boat pulling up close to get a view of the zoo.

Getting a rare chance to see an endangered species: pussy hair.

“Red, Red Wine, twenty each” (all year long when we hear one of the songs from the Hedo loop out in public we both just smile at each other).

Adventures of the nude Catamaran cruise. Rasta Ralphie, Rick’s tourista trappa, etc.

What celebrity look-alikes will we have this year? Last year: Bruce Willis, Newt Gingrich. Previous year we had Eric Clapton and Tommy Lee.

Playing the “so which one do you think is the wife?” game.

When the guy lights up his cigar in the hot tub, 30 people at once hold him underwater until he gets the hint.

Getting the answer to the question “Is my dick average?”

Ongoing updates of who went to Desire during the last year (and why they are back at Hedo 2).

How we got into the Lifestyle. Always an interesting subject. How I got drunk yesterday. Always an uninteresting subject (except to the drinker).

Hot tub usuals: Too hot, too cold, too much “floaties,” just right!

The look of the newbies when they see their first PDA and try to figure out how to look without looking.

The look of the newbies when they do their first PDA and try to figure out how to be seen without being seen.

Finding a rock with someone’s name you recognize, and now you have the answer to the “which one is the wife” question.

Having the chance to ask, “Just how well does that genital piercing work?”

Watching people trying to figure out how to keep it in while screwing on a raft.

Noticing how much less comfortable the beautiful young things are with their perfect bodies than us old farts in our wrinkled suits.

The smiling faces of the Canada gang. These people may be from the frozen north, but they know how to warm the place up.

Three-D porn, live and in person (or persons).

The great imponderables: Who will you be with today? Did you have hot water yesterday? Is it true that jerk chicken makes you horny and prolongs erections?

Hearing, after you answer standard question number one above: “Oh yeah? You went to bed at 5 a.m.? Well, just after that the really wild shit went down!”

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These cards are great thing to hand out to the friends you want to be close with.  You could even take them with  you on a vacation to an erotic destination (shamless plug for Tom’s Trips also Free)

We are proud to announce that Tom’s Trips has earned our 8th straight Diamond Award from Superclubs for our consistantly high number of reservations at Hedonism II.

We want to thank all of  you for our support.