Unicorns and Single Females in the Swinging Lifestyle with TomandBunny

October 15th, 2018 by Tom Sheehan

 


Mark Maze performs at Friction NYE

October 13th, 2018 by Tom Sheehan

Mark Maze will be representing Tom’s Trips at this years New Years Eve party for Friction in Philly!

We know the guest at Friction will be truly amazed at the talents offered by this 3 time Entertainer of the Year!

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October 4th, 2018 by Tom Sheehan

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Get Naked with Us!

September 11th, 2018 by Tom Sheehan

Today Tom and Bunny discuss going to Clothing Optional resorts!  Check out their latest video


 


Winter is coming

September 5th, 2018 by Tom Sheehan

The Naked Truth About Nudist Resorts: What Really Goes On Inside

August 30th, 2018 by Tom Sheehan

From time to time we come across articles that we feel benefit the travel community and we bring them to you. 

Story Credit: By Tara Imperatore May. 9th, 2013

Photo Courtesy of Hidden Beach Resort

We’ve covered a wide variety of luxury travel over the years—million dollar tours of India, women’s solo travel destinations, and extravagant private jet tours around the world; but we have yet to explore another popular way to stay: in the nude. As someone who didn’t know much/anything about nudism, nudist travel or nudist resorts, I set out to dispel, or confirm, my own, and perhaps society’s, common perceptions about these places and the people that frequent them.

Photo Courtesy of Desert Sun Resort

To assist in my quest for the naked truth, I approached representatives from three luxurious clothing optional resorts—Media and PR Director of Caliente Resorts, Deb Bowen; Owner of Desert Sun Resort, Elizabeth Young; and Niche Project Manager for Karisma Hotels & Resorts (Hidden Beach is the clothing optional property) Alejandro Perez—as well as Ray Aldag, a professor in the management and human resources department at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, who has over 30 years of experience in teaching and conducting research in such subjects as decision making, organizational behavior and culture, group decision processes, and motivation. Although he is not an expert in motivation for participating in nudism specifically, he does know a thing or two about the way people behave and learn. 

So let’s take a look at some of these potential misconceptions and see how our insiders and experts fielded them. 

Photo Courtesy of Desert Sun Resort

Myth: Nudity is mandatory everywhere on property at a nudist resort. 

What I imagine: An intense doubles tennis match naked; a couple enjoying a romantic candlelight dinner naked; a playful belly flop into the pool naked; sunbathers catching some rays in lounge chairs naked. I see any and every activity in the nude and assume that it’s required considering the premise of these resorts. 

Reality: This rule varies a bit from resort to resort, and tends to lean more on the “optional” side. At Desert Sun, clothing isn’t required anywhere on the property, however nudity is a must at the pools, Jacuzzis and while on the pool decks. And no need to bring a swimsuit since those are banned too. Owner Elizabeth Young says, “Unlike some places, requiring nudity in and around the pool puts everyone on the same level and there is no judgment. Desert Sun Resort has found that this works well for first timers to feel comfortable. There is nothing worse than being at a clothing optional resort and you are the only one nude in the pool.” 

But what about when guests are active, or when the sun goes down and the disco ball starts turning? At Caliente Club, guests are free to dress how they’d like for sports like tennis or volleyball and can be found wearing anything from lingerie to sheer dresses to casual shirts and shorts to the nightclub. “Just like all nightclubs, ours has a sexy vibe to it, and people dress to suit that vibe,” said Marketing Director Deb Bowen. “Caliente club is an adult club, and just like any other high-end nightclub, guests dress to impress. People may come to the club fully dressed, but may not leave the club completely dressed.” 

While the term ‘clothing optional’ may have different definitions at different nudist resorts, there is one practice that seems to be standard across the board: all guests must sit on a towel when nude. I’m sure the maid staff and cleaning crew are appreciative of that. 

Side note: Speaking of the staff’s preferences, do they also participate in the nudist lifestyle? Maybe on their own time, but not while on the job. Our three resort reps all report that they do not work in the nude. Deb Bowen says, “Our employees, be them nudists or non-nudists, do not work naked. We have the same liquor laws and health department regulations as any other resort or club and have to adhere to the same guidelines.”

 

Photo Courtesy of Hidden Beach Resort

Myth: Guests are free to engage in sexual activity in the resort’s public areas. 

What I imagine: Considering everyone is indeed naked and most are couples, it seems safe to assume that they’ll just feel comfortable expressing their affection openly whenever and however they want. 

Reality: It may seem hard to believe, what with all the naked people running around, but nudist resorts are not sexually charged environments. Any type of overt sexual behavior is actually a BIG no-no. At Caliente Club & Resorts, behavior “never needing an apology” is what they deem appropriate. “There has always been a general misconception that wherever you go, no matter what, if people are around each other naked, they’ve got to be having sex. Well that just is not the case at all,” explains Caliente’s Deb Bowen. 

Participating in the naturist lifestyle is about repose and real people escaping the confinement of their careers or everyday stresses. “I think that some people automatically assume nudity equals sex and that is not what a clothing optional resort is about,” says Elizabeth Young of Desert Sun. “It is a place that you would not be embarrassed to tell your neighbor that you went to because it is about relaxation.“ Resort staff ensures that visitors feel comfortable during their stay, with gawking or insults from other guests being taken very seriously. “Guests are very respectful and we enforce the fact that clients cannot be involved in sexual activities in the public areas of the hotel,” says Hidden Beach Resort’s Alejandro Perez. “This is a purely a naturist hotel, we do not operate as a swingers/lifestyle hotel.”

 

Photo Courtesy of Caliente Resorts

Myth: Nudist resorts are only frequented by an older, retirement age demographic. 

What I imagine: My mind goes right to grandma and grandpa sitting around a Jacuzzi naked with like-minded and similar-age friends discussing the youth of America, social security benefits and the perks of retirement. 

Reality: While this age group is infamous for being attracted to the nudist lifestyle, they’re certainly not the only ones baring it all these days. Guests do need to be at least 18 years of age to stay, but all three insiders say that people from all walks of life and all around the world choose a nudist getaway. Because of its vacation destination locale in Palm Springs, the common age range of guests at Desert Sun is 35-55. In some research done by Professor Aldag on participation in nudism, he is also able to confirm an excessive number of people in their 30s and 40s in the nudist population. 

And while 38 is the average age at Hidden Beach in the Riviera Maya, Alejandro informs that they are starting to see a trend in even younger clientele as of late. “For the younger ones, it’s something to do that sounds exciting and even a little daring.” Caliente’s Deb Bowen continues, “Empty-Nesters: They are looking to spice up their relationship. It’s fun, it’s exciting and makes them feel like teenagers again! Older folks: Bucket List! Plain and simple, something exciting, daring, different, unique, or something no one would ever believe.” 

Photo Courtesy of Hidden Beach Resort

Myth: Nudist resorts are a great place for singles to come and meet other singles. 

What I imagine: The nightclub is packed, but across the bar a man sees a woman with two of the biggest…earrings he’s ever seen and he must go over and compliment her on them. “That is some gorgeous jewelry you’re wearing, do you come here often?” he asks. She giggles and they have a great conversation and dance the night away while Cupid shoots his arrows sans diaper. 

Reality: While this might not be entirely untrue, most nudist resorts are geared toward romance and couples. Professor Aldag’s research states that 75%-80% of nudists are indeed married, with many being introduced to the lifestyle through their spouse. At Desert Sun, they attempt to keep the gender ratio even by making a limited number of rooms available for singles, as well as not allowing them to obtain memberships or day passes unless they are a part of a couple. Likewise, Hidden Beach accepts reservations from singles, but on a “case by case scenario.” 

Their site also warns that prices differ from those for couples, probably depending on the season, dates selected, and room availability. Alejandro Perez affirms, “Each couple is always in their own world, not paying attention to what the couple next to them is doing.” So while there’s no telling where Cupid will show up, it’s not likely he’ll be bringing singles together at a nudist resort (or if he’ll be welcome at all without a date).

Photo Courtesy of Desert Sun Resort

Myth: First-timers tend to feel extremely awkward walking around without clothing in front of a bunch of strangers. 

What I imagine: People sitting in the Jacuzzi until their whole body feels like one big wrinkly prune, too shy to exit and walk around freely. Some women wear sarongs and others stand or sit in awkward positions to cover up their flaws. 

Reality: Not the case, the insiders claim. “After 15 minutes, you will forget you are nude,” says Elizabeth Young. Nudists have reported some reasons for participation including a ‘sense of freedom, honesty and openness’, a ‘basis for social collegiality’, and the ‘removal of social differences cued by the nature and quality of clothing’, Professor Aldag shared. And while some other reasons were ‘curiosity about how others look, and how their looks compare to one’s own’ (that’s only natural, right?), and a ‘means to work through problems of self-concept’, for the most part nudists seem rather genial and lean more toward instilling a sense of community than slinging judgment. 

Elizabeth continues, “You will find that most people are friendlier at a nudist resort. Today’s society is so self-conscience about what we do or don’t look like that it is refreshing to be at a place where you are accepted just as you are. Many guests find lifelong friends at nudist resorts. It is like being a member at the same club.” Speaking to newbies, Deb Bowen says, “RELAX! People generally all feel, within the first hour of visiting, ‘really, it’s no big deal!’”


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August 23rd, 2018 by Tom Sheehan

January at Hedo is Lifestyle Month and we have several trips that may interest you!

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Erectile Dysfunction Part 2

August 21st, 2018 by Tom Sheehan

We previously did a video on Erectile Dysfunction and this is our follow up video

 

 


The ‘Nacation’ Nude Travel

July 23rd, 2018 by Tom Sheehan

This article was on NBC News and all credits belong to NBC News

Why travel’s latest trend — the ‘nacation’ — is gaining momentum

In 2016, 4.3 billion dollars was directly spent on nude travel in the state of Florida alone. Psychologists say the trend isn’t surprising.

Jul.21.2018 / 7:46 AM ET

Last night was crazy. Not in the Las Vegas sense of over-imbibing and forgetting where your hotel room is kind of crazy, but the kind where you go to a toga foam party and everyone ends up naked in a sea of glorious, sudsy, wild debauchery. And that was only the first night I spent at Jamaica’s Hedonism II, a clothing-optional resort situated against the sparkling blue Caribbean Sea.

My Experience at a Nudist Resort

In the months and weeks leading up to the trip, I’d be lying if I didn’t tell you I was terrified of stripping down in front of strangers whose minds I couldn’t stop from judgement. And yet, despite my fears, my conservative Mennonite upbringing, and my tendency to lean prude, it was a keen desire for exploring the unknown that fueled me both early on and throughout a wild five days.

It fueled me during check in, when everyone eyed me with a knowing smile, saying, “You’re a virgin to the resort, aren’t you?”, and it kept me going upon that first, wide-eyed walk across campus to my room where, in modest street clothes, it finally hit me that I was fully immersed in a nudist community.

Perhaps the most surprising part of taking a “nacation” — a nude vacation — was just how quickly my inhibitions, insecurities and shock melted away. Within three hours of arrival, I tepidly disrobed to experience the ocean like I never had before: completely naked. By day three, I was walking across campus sans-clothing, somehow liberated from a long list of self-perceived body flaws I’ve written about myself over the years.

By day three, I was walking across campus sans-clothing, somehow liberated from a long list of self-perceived body flaws.

I learned that time spent in the pool is much better without being confined in an uncomfortable bathing suit you’re constantly adjusting, that for the most part humans see the beauty in others and the “flaws” don’t actually matter, and that freeing yourself from a prison of anxiety-driven inhibitions can lift a weight you didn’t even realize you were holding.

The Nacation Trend

The “nudist” crowd, in my personal experience, is exceptionally diverse. Not just in ethnicity, but in age, in profession, in religion, and in background. While sipping Red Stripe in the nude pool, I chatted with a well-known rabbi’s daughter — a 50-something white woman from New York who’d been to the resort 17 times. I spoke to a timid black couple there for the first time celebrating their anniversary and, conversely, to a long-time married couple who’d been over 30 times and clearly knew how to keep the spark alive.

It turns out, the “nacation” industry is pretty substantial. For example, a Florida-focused economic study conducted in 2017 by the American Association for Nude Recreation (AANR) and American Association for Nude Travel Florida Region learned that 4.3 billion was directly spent on nude travel in the state (which has over 30 nudist resorts) in 2016. Florida obviously isn’t alone. Even traditional companies, such as Carnival, are now catering to the nacation trend.

Clearly, more people are taking these sorts of trips than what you’d assume. The question is why? And why are so many of them repeat attenders? Though it’s impossible to provide a blanket answer, we can at least offer psychologist-backed speculation.

4.3 billion was directly spent on nude travel in the state of Florida (which has over 30 nudist resorts) in 2016.

“There are several reasons why some people are drawn to a nude vacation,” says Dr. Sanam Hafeez, a neuropsychologist based in New York City. “Some people have routine lives. They wake up, go to work, work, return home, and have this secure outward persona. They also have another side to themselves that wants to be self-expressed and free. A nude vacation experience for some satisfies that.”

She likens this kind of vacation to the thrill some people feel when camping, scaling a mountain or finishing a marathon.

Dr. Gail Saltz, associate professor of psychiatry at the New York Presbyterian Hospital Weill-Cornell School of Medicine, agrees, speaking more to the “sexualized” energy of a resort like Hedonism or Florida’s Cypress Cove Nudist Resort.

“Many, many people have at least unconsciously some sexual inhibitions, and they may long to feel less conflicted and more uninhibited,” she says. “Having an entity — like a resort — that other people endorse and subscribe to and gives permission to be extremely uninhibited (and in fact, for our society, unusually permissive), helps these people to feel excited and free in a way they normally cannot.”

In these environments, permission is being given to view other bodies and to exhibit your own body, both of which can be arousing, sexually exciting, and confidence-building, as it satisfies normal human voyeuristic and exhibitionistic desires, she explains. There’s also an emotional nakedness that comes with actually stripping away clothes.

If a man is in a suit and tie you’ll think he’s a corporate guy, stiff and buttoned up. Take that same guy fully naked and he’s just a human.

“Our clothing tells people who we are. They can make assumptions about what we do for a living, where we may live, just by observing what we are wearing,” says Dr. Hafeez. “If a man is in a suit and tie you’ll think he’s a corporate guy, stiff and buttoned up. Take that same guy fully naked and he’s just a human. Put him in a nudist vacation with others who are nude, and he’ll feel confident and able to just be himself without the armor of clothing. When you can walk around naked in all of your truth there’s power in that for people.”

The bottom line is that when you’re free to explore — without judgement and within the confines of a safe, organized environment with other like-minded people — it can be very freeing and self-actualizing experience.

4 Ways to Strip Inhibitions Without Undressing

Not quite ready to strip down and hit up the nude beach? There are still plenty of other ways you can release those inhibitions and harness a similar sense of freedom. Here are four places to start.

  • Discuss fantasies. Permission-giving can be attained in other ways besides getting naked. Dr. Saltz says, “Discussing fantasies with a partner, discussing sexual ideas, having sexual play and being affirming about each of these also gives each other permission to be more sexual in a guilt-free, less inhibited way.”
  • Hit the Dance Club. Dr. Hafeez says that dancing is a great way to connect to your body and, if a partner is there, a way to connect to theirs, as well.
  • Get Acquainted with Nature. “Hiking and connecting with nature, taking in beautiful scenery, and going for a swim in a natural body of water like a river, lake or beach can be very freeing,” says Dr. Hafeez.
  • Take an Adventurous Vacation. Step outside of your travel safety net and plan a trip that’s completely unlike anything you’ve done before. Maybe it’s a week spent camping in the Amazon jungle, a long weekend exploring the canyons of the great Southwest, or going skiing instead of snorkeling — just this once.

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Compete at Naughty in Nawlins for Ms No Swim Suit

July 13th, 2018 by Tom Sheehan

What is the No Swimsuit Contest

For 19 years Tom’s Trips has hosted the Ms. No Swimsuit Contest at Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica. We bring 10 girls down to Jamaica for a week long competition at the resort. The contestants get a FREE trip to Hedonism II but are asked to take part in events each day.  The events are all fun things designed to help you get to know other guests and make new friends.  At the end of the week all of the guests who booked through Tom’s Trips vote for their favorite girls and the winner is crowned.  In 2018 there were over 500 guests in attendance.

How do I become a contestant?

To be a contestant you have to win a preliminary contest.  Naughty in N’awlins will be sponsoring a preliminary contest at Razzoo on Saturday at 3:00 P.M..  To become a contestant you need to submit a picture and 100 word description of why you would like to be Ms. NIN to info@tomstrips.com by MONDAY July 23rd 2018.

What happens if I am selected to participate in Naughty In N’awlins

You will be contacted by Tom’s Trips staff and informed that you were selected to participate in the contest and you will be informed of what you will need to do during the event.  We will be holding a wet T-shirt like event where you get on stage dance to a song and engage with the enormous crowd.  Michael from “Swing with Michael and Holly”, Mark Maze (three time lifestyle entertainer of the year” and Tom and Bunny from “Swing with Tom and Bunny” will be there to judge the applause and MC the event.

Requirements to participate

  • You will need to be OK having photo and video taken during the event (and required to sign a photo release) – you can see examples of the pictures at www.noswimsuit.com
  • You must have a valid Passport
  • You must be able to travel to Jamaica on March 2-9, 2019

What happens if I Win Ms. Naughty in Nawlins?

  • You Win a 7 Night Stay at Hedonism II and Airfare to Jamaica
  • Your guest will get 10% off their stay at Hedonism II – Your guest room will start around $1,600 depending on room category plus airfare to Jamaica
  • You will be asked to help promote the event through your network of friends, which helps you during the competition because if they travel with Tom’s Trips they are judges at the finals in Jamaica.
  • You will participate in events while on property at Hedonism II like:  Variety Show, Barewear Competition, Wet T-shirt Contest, and Nude Fashion Show
  • You have the chance to earn prizes including the grand prize of a 7 night stay for 2 at Hedonism II, which is worth around $3,500


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